quick question

[dancingyel]

how do you bring up serious relationship topics without being all scary and making the other person think something is wrong? 'cause i have some things i want to discuss with the boy, but i'm not sure how to start the conversation in a normal, non-scary fashion. i also don't want to pretend to "accidentally" stumble on the topic, which is a tactic that often works, but is really not what i'm going for here.

Comments

[newerabooks.livejournal.com]

Oh, I see what he's saying. If you take too long, the other person will either get confused and tune out or think they understand the gist of it and jump to conclusions. People try to read the meaning under the words, which is what you're concerned about, so don't use enough words to give him a running chance at preemptive analysis. Use just enough to get the idea across, then switch to explaining and reassuring.
Helpful? No?

[dancingyel.livejournal.com]

ah, that makes a lot more sense. that's a good point...giving a short summary and then explaining the details is a v. good plan. definitely helpful!

[waccoonie71.livejournal.com]

it's like writing a paper for hum...thesis first, then explain away for the next 7 pages...only there's really only about two pages' worth of stuff to say, but what with all the winding around and using big words it turns out to be much longer. hence the necessity of a thesis statement. and a conclusion paragraph that you can just skip to.

[dancingyel.livejournal.com]

hehehe...oh, cin. that's such a great analogy! you dork! *hugs* i haven't thought about hum papers in a very long time.