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dancingyel ([personal profile] dancingyel) wrote2002-05-03 12:37 am
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yucky yucky times

ok, i've decided that i hate the middle of the quarter, especially since it's spring quarter. there's so much stuff going on right now, and all i can think about is getting out of here and going home for the summer. next week is gonna be hell. i have a hum paper due and a math midterm on wednesday, a lab due thursday, and a chem midterm friday. but that's just next week. for tomorrow, i have to finish a chem lab that's already late, write the lady in san francisco to get details about my internship, fill out and turn in applications for storage space for the ballroom dance club, get ready to talk to navs people about fundraising, figure out how to get to LAX on sunday, and prepare for the marshall semiformal which i am randomly going to with a friend of a friend. bother. between all this, i must somehow manage to get some sleep. i think i'll go sleep after i finish this entry, then tomorrow not go to chem and work on my lab, then not go to dancing until i'm done with my lab and it's turned in.

i now know what ceci meant by dance politics. everyone is stressed out and one of our officers is being rather rude to me. i will refrain from naming her, since i'm trying my best not to be rude. however, if she writes me another nasty e-mail, i'm afraid i will not be very pleasant in return. i've been good so far, but i'm not a very patient person, and there's only so much i can do to keep myself from snapping back. hopefully everything will calm down soon.

i realized that i didn't put the context for the quote i had in my last entry. it's talking about the power of silence, and how that was the way rabbis of the talmud felt about God, with that awe and deep love. i just really liked the way it was written, especially since i can relate to it. i think that's why i love hugs so much. they take the place of words...i don't have to say anything, but i can still show love. yeah.

so here's another quote from the same book. this time, the context is that while it is an important thing that God loves humans, it is more important that we are aware of this love.

"To love alone, in secret, is not enough. The benefit of the beloved comes equally from the recognition of love, the feeling of warmth and uniquness that it bestows. That is a great tragedy of some love, that it exists but is not communicated to the beloved, to the child, to the parent, the husband or wife. Even though love abounds, the psychological supposrt is lost...To be loved is insufficient. The wall of restraint must crumble. Love must be expressed, felt, shared"
David J. Wolpe, The Healer of Shattered Hearts

so yes...what's the point of this, you ask? it's quite clear. if you love someone, tell them. or at least show them...but let them know in some way or another. yes.

Love

[identity profile] maddancingfool.livejournal.com 2002-05-03 07:48 am (UTC)(link)
I think love in general is too rarely shared. Now I assume you are speaking of romantic love, where you are thinking of love in conjunction with romantic interest, but seriously, I love quite a number of different people in non-romantic ways. Some of them perhaps I would also be interested in romantically, but things are not leaning that way, or whatever; I'm quite happy with who I have. However, the point of this rambling diatribe is something along the lines of... love and expressing love should be easier than proposing to someone, or something like that. And I think if it were easier for us to express our love for others in a broader sense, then perhaps we wouldn't have this big onus on declaring our love for one person. I guess there would still be wierd things and issues when romance was involved, because romance fucks with everyone's head, but wouldn't it be a little easier?
I am also an advocate of letting everyone know whats going on to the greatest extent feasible; If you're interested in someone, let them know of your interest and feel them out through yourself or a third party, because until you do you'll never get anywhere. Anyways, thats my rambling early morning diatribe as I'm about to go to class and wishing time would move faster so I could get on to my 8 hour drive to be with the person I love most in this world for a weekend after not seeing her for weeks: aka its probably not very coherent, but make of it what you will

Re: Love

[identity profile] trinary.livejournal.com 2002-05-03 12:38 pm (UTC)(link)
right on.

Re: Love

[identity profile] dancingyel.livejournal.com 2002-05-04 01:14 am (UTC)(link)
what you said about expressing love is so true...it should be easy enough to let people know you love them...but it really isn't. it's funny how it can be so difficult...you'd think that the more you love someone, the easier it would be to tell them...but it's not at all...strange, backwards way of doing things.