quick question

[dancingyel]

how do you bring up serious relationship topics without being all scary and making the other person think something is wrong? 'cause i have some things i want to discuss with the boy, but i'm not sure how to start the conversation in a normal, non-scary fashion. i also don't want to pretend to "accidentally" stumble on the topic, which is a tactic that often works, but is really not what i'm going for here.

Comments

[eviladmin.livejournal.com]

I think starting off by saying nothing is wrong, but there are some things that need to be discussed to make sure that both of you are thinking the same thing isn't too scary. Sending the strong message that there is nothing wrong is a good start to making it less scary since that tends to be the conclusion jumped to....

[dancingyel.livejournal.com]

it's sad that the thought of having a serious conversation makes people think something is wrong! i do it, too, but it's such a silly thing! but yeah, you're right...i definitely should emphasize that nothing is wrong and i just want to have a focused conversation.