quick question

[dancingyel]

how do you bring up serious relationship topics without being all scary and making the other person think something is wrong? 'cause i have some things i want to discuss with the boy, but i'm not sure how to start the conversation in a normal, non-scary fashion. i also don't want to pretend to "accidentally" stumble on the topic, which is a tactic that often works, but is really not what i'm going for here.

Comments

[bouncyweee.livejournal.com]

You just do it. Just say it, in normal conversation. And let him know exactly what a deal it is before hand. EG: This isn't huge deal, but it's something on my mind, so blahblahblahblahblah. add an articulate disclaimer, and then just lauch into it. being nervous about how someone will take something can often be mistaken for being nervous about the actual subject. and keep a good face. No matter the seriousness of your subject, if it's not meant to be worrisome, just make that clear, don't be nervous. But if you are nervous, let him know that too. Honesty. yay.

[dancingyel.livejournal.com]

yeah, you're right re: disclaimer. like eviladmin said, i need to send a strong message that nothing is wrong, i just want to bring something up. i tend to say things like, "random thought..." but this isn't so much a random thought, so that doesn't feel right. i just need to come up with a good disclaimer now.

yay for useful advice!